3 out of 4 Americans are lonely.
Are you someone who struggles with feeling lonely with no sense of belonging? Just know, you’re not alone.
Whether it’s for a season or a lifetime, people will come and go in your life and as we age, it gets increasingly more difficult to find your tribe.
In this article, we’ll look at ways in which you can find your people. It takes some work, but it’ll improve your sense of wellbeing tenfold.
1. Evaluate What You Want from a Friendship
Are you looking for one close friend who you share everything with, just like when you were a teenager?
Or, have you realized that you prefer knowing a group of people that all spend one evening a week together, but aren’t too involved in each other’s lives?
Do you want spirituality to be at the forefront of a friendship, or would you like to be friends with people you can debate with but don’t share common ties with?
Look closely at your own beliefs, hobbies, interests, and current relationships to figure out what it is you’re looking for.
2. Join Many Different Classes
Every month, budget some money to spend on classes and events. For example, try out a pottery class or an exercise group.
Not only will you be learning a new skill or getting fit, but you’ll also be meeting new people with similar interests to you.
If you don’t enjoy the class or don’t meet anyone you like, move on and try something new next month.
If you do meet people you like, then make sure to get their contact and ask them to go out for a coffee sometime!
3. Make the First Move
With so many lonely people in the world, it’s shocking that we simply can’t tell people how we feel.
Sometimes, being forthright is the best way to make friends. Simply saying to someone: “I just moved here and don’t know anyone”, or “I’d love to be friends!” is the best way to connect.
Others will appreciate your honesty. And, if they don’t, they’re not someone you want to be friends with anyway.
So, make sure you ask for someone’s number, invite them out for a drink, and tell them that you’re looking to make new friends! Soon enough, you’ll have developed your own chosen family.
4. Find Your Tribe Through Social Media
Nowadays, no matter how niche you think your tribe is, you’ll find thousands alike on social media.
Do you want to meet other childfree people? There’s a Facebook group for that. Do you want to find parents who home school? There’s definitely a group for that.
Are you a yogi, a digital nomad, a ballet dancer, an entrepreneur, or all four? You’ll definitely be able to find your tribe on social media.
Once you find a group that you want to be apart of, join and post something! Ask whether there are people in your town and meet up with them in a public place.
Fostering a Sense of Belonging Takes Time
Finding people who make you feel accepted, loved, and secure is tough. But, it’s definitely worth it when you finally find your tribe.
Make sure you ditch anyone who makes you feel judged, lonely, or upset. Life is simply too short to be spending time with people who don’t build you up.
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